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Arthur Klepchukov's avatar

Stay sane girl; can’t help anyone, especially yourself, if you’re burned out.

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Fraulein Zen's avatar

I had a problem child that copied me on emails about work while I was on vacation in Germany for three weeks. After I specifically told him not to send them. He copied the acting Chief that I left in chagre and ME in Germany. This was before COVID and Zoom, so no reason other than showing off and letting me know he was working. My husband literally had to check my email every day and delete them.

I feel your pain. Oh, and after you retire - I took early retirement at 60 - your anxious work brain morphs into anxious home brain. Here's my description of Tuesday night from my substack today. "To give you an example, I woke up and worried about the tom cat I saw in our yard yesterday. I chased it away earlier in the day before Alfred [our cat, not my husband] could freak out that his territory had been invaded. But what if that other stray cat in the neighborhood is in heat? What if they find each other? What if neither one are fixed? What if she has a passel of kittens? What if I can’t find any shelter to take the kittens, just like last year? What if they’re eaten by foxes? What if THEY have more kittens, and THEY have more kittens, and our house and neighborhood smells like cat urine and our neighborhood becomes a feral cat colony? What does that do to our property values? And on and on and on. Ridiculous in the light of day, but quite important in the middle of the night when you can’t go back to sleep."

I learned that my anxiety wasn't caused by work - I am an anxious, catastrophizing, anticipatory grief and worry QUEEN. It's just I was able to distill it and keep it at work, and now it's followed me home like a puppy with worms and fleas. But it's getting better. ;) Love your work!

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